We are not self-defined, but God defined. One of the ways that God defines us is as a New Creation. Becoming a New Creation is not that you become a better version of who you already are, but you become who you were created to be. Part of becoming a new creation is we get a new heart, soul, and mind. When we become a new creation through faith in Jesus, we are described as ministers of reconciliation and Christ Ambassadors.
People who are guided by integrity do the right thing they know they ought to and trust God with the outcomes.
The more we want to follow, the more the Holy Spirit will lead. How is the Holy Spirit leading you today?