We are not self-defined, but God defined. One of the ways that God defines us is as “redeemed”. Jesus came and paid the ultimate price to enable your adoption into His kingdom. There is nothing you can do to outspend the redeeming power of Jesus.
Following Jesus starts and ends with surrender.
If we choose to unfollow Jesus, we are choosing to follow someone or something else instead.
You are not the sum total of your life’s experiences; you are what God says you are in Christ.